3 Types of Conversationalists
There are exactly three types of conversationalists in this world:
Incessant Talkers / Non-Listeners – These are the people who dominate conversations. They make it very hard for another person to get in a word or thought and they are often unaware of when the other person in the conversation is ready for it to be over.
Listener Interupters – These are people who listen to what you have to say but they are constantly comparing it to their own internal dialogue so they will interupt your thoughts to interject their own. Conversations between two Listener Interupters tend to be hectic.
Deep Listeners/Questioners – These are the people who allow you to finish your conversational thoughts while listening intently. In exchange they offer complete thoughts and feedback and ask questions to further understand your points.
I used to be a Listener Interupter but found that I was spending too much time trying to convince someone else of my point or opinion. Eventually I realized that this didn’t feel as good as simply knowing my opinion and then spending my time trying to understand the other person’s point of view and how it might fit in with my own. I now consider myself in the category of Deep Listening/Questioning and have found it is the most mindful and peaceful conversational style since it requires being in the present moment while conversing.
Which one are you and do you have a preference interacting with one type over another?